When Women Brag About Their ‘Provider Husbands,’ (They’re Telling on Themselves)
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The other day, I saw a video of a woman twirling around her spotless, Pinterest-perfect kitchen, singing and dancing about how she gets to be home on a random Tuesday because, in her words, “my husband isn’t a loser.”
Now, I can only assume she was actually speaking to her haters. However, she never mentioned anything about “haters” in the video or caption. And aside from this one, I’ve seen so many videos like this. Whole accounts built around the same theme – “My husband provides, my life is great, and if you don’t have this, it’s because you chose the wrong man.”
Let me be real: I don’t think these women are flexing the way they think they are. Personally, I think the women who create this kind of content are actually the ones married to the losers. Here’s why.
I wholeheartedly believe that someone who’s truly secure and happy in their relationship isn’t walking around making this type of rage-bait content.
They don’t constantly feel the need to prove their happiness by tearing down those who live differently. And if your life is truly fulfilling, you’re not out here on the internet trying to convince strangers of it.
And let’s be honest – we all probably know someone who seems to “have it all.” The big house. The nice car. The clothes. The vacations. On the outside, it looks like a dream. But behind closed doors, the husband is controlling, dismissive, or flat-out miserable to live with. Having a man provide for you does not automatically make him a great partner. It just means the bills are covered.
So when I see women making this kind of content, I can’t help but think they’re telling on themselves without realizing it. Because if everything was as good as they say, they wouldn’t need to constantly remind us. (Related: Download your mindful spending Money Mindset Bullet Journal — it’s your personal spending coach).
And for context – not that it matters (but I know how some of you are) – my husband pays 100% of our household expenses. But you don’t see me dancing around the kitchen calling other people’s husbands losers. Because providing financially is only one piece of being a husband. Character, respect, partnership, kindness – those matter just as much.
So to the women who are out here saying “choose better” while looking down on anyone whose life doesn’t look like theirs: maybe take a second and ask yourself why you need to make that video in the first place. Because happy people (I believe) don’t feel the need to convince anyone else.
But I want to hear from you: Do you think women making this kind of content are really happy, or are they overcompensating?